Children in the first months of language development often do not pronounce words clearly. The absence of recovery or replacement is a common and normal phenomenon of development that is considered abnormal only if it continues for more than 5 years.
Many children stutter, so to speak. The pronunciation is not clear and there may be a pause and a repetition of the syllables without additional words of the sentence appearing for a moment. The little boy is not aware of this no influence or repetition. The vocabulary of a child is limited and its expressiveness, combining words of sentences, especially long sentences, is limited. As a result, the words, albeit in a broken way, seem to come out. In fact, the child has something to say in his head, but expresses those thoughts in words to express himself. He has to look for words in his head to express himself. This is a normal phenomenon and parents should not worry if their children’s language is not fluent and fluid at first. When parents have an opinion, stuttering increases if the child initially is not fluent and soft. When parents notice it, the stutter increases when the child is excited and likes to tell a story that he thinks is fun and interesting. Bubble and it repeats without effort. It is a normal phenomenon until the age of 3-4 years. This phase usually lasts between 6 and 12 months, after which it ends unless the parents are worried. Parents should not worry, as this is a temporary illness that affects many children and disappears over time. Parents feel that language is always wrong when the child has language difficulties. But language has nothing to do with that. However, stuttering for 4 years is not normal and is called “stuttering.” It can persist even into adulthood. An adult stutter is very aware of their language and any situation that makes them tense, nervous or shy makes the situation worse.
This is usually due to poor management of the previous situation.
Things to stutter
Give it the attention it deserves when it speaks to you. Listen with patience and understanding, because it tells you something that he considers important.
Let him finish what he says no matter what difficulties he finds.
Eliminate the causes of stress and frustration in your daily life as much as possible. Keep a quiet and relaxed atmosphere at home. This can be achieved by reducing your own pace and doing routine tasks easily and quickly.
Try talking to him more slowly, clearly and calmly. Speaking in quick and easy sentences and at a slower pace makes it easier to master fluid handling. If you are relaxed and unhurried, you will probably feel more relaxed talking to you.
Sometimes a playmate or other adult can tell the child how he or she talks. When this happens and the child asks his parents for advice, they should assure him that everyone is being trained, if he talks from time to time, if he is agitated or speaks very fast, there is nothing wrong with him.
Things to avoid when you stutter
Do not make him feel confident and do not give him the label “stutter” or any other label. As soon as the child’s language is “marked”, it means that something is wrong with him.
Never discuss in your presence the “problem” you have with your speech.
Try to avoid worrying about your speech. Most children go through this phase. Anxiety can be transmitted to the child and remember that his perception and understanding that something is wrong is very serious.
When he speaks to you, your expression must be impassive, and there is no indication that you are upset by his speech.
Do not ask the child to slow down, take a deep breath, etc. Do not make suggestions
Do not reward him for periods of fluency, do not force him to repeat something that will “train” him.
Do not ridicule it, as it reduces your self-esteem and self-esteem, which will only aggravate the problem.
- Write “Reflection”
Many children often confuse words with writing in the first hours of writing and can write “b” for “d”, “p” for “q”, etc. However, if the problem persists and the child does not seem to understand that he is making a mistake, this may be an indication of a non-benign problem called “dyslexia” for which medical help is considered.
- Mathematical problems.
Another common problem in children is reciting from 1 to 100 in the first months. They will come to Nine and they will be confused with what will follow. To give an example, the child can speak fluently until the age of 29 or 39, and then forget that 30 and 40 come later. If an adult tells them that they will easily start at 31, 32, …, this is also temporary.
This is a very common problem called enuresis. The child often wet the bed at night. This phenomenon is normal until 5 years and parents should not request medical treatment until that time.
They are repetitive, aimless, automatic movements and a way out of tensions. Examples include: scratching the neck, runny nose, grimacing, blinking, etc. Although these behaviors can be irritating to parents, it is best not to call them directly. They disappear faster when they are ignored than when the child realizes it. Although these movements are harmless, they can be an extremely difficult socio-psychological problem, especially when they are linked to verbal obsession and aggressive behavior. If they are ungovernable and strict, you should seek the help of a child psychologist.
- Eat earth
This is another harmless behavior that many children experience as part of their growth, usually between 1 and 3 years. It is postulated that this may be due to iron deficiency in the child. Therefore, it is better for the child to be examined by him. An iron treatment test goes beyond this behavior, so do not ignore it. The best approach is to pay more attention to the child and keep an eye on him so that he can always control himself when he talks about “dirt”. The second way is to offer more satisfying and interesting activities. The secondary effect of dust consumption is the possibility of worm infestation and chronic lead poisoning.
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- Rock, hit and roll the head.
These are all blood pressure outputs that are usually benign and get worse with age. Sometimes the child does not receive the emotional satisfaction that he feels and, therefore, is under mental shock. This is published in several ways.
“Bosy Oscillation”: occurs around 6 months. In a sitting or crawling position, the child swings from side to side. We know that the powerful rockers cross the room with their cribs. Often present when the child is tired or about to go to bed, this behavior persists for 15 to 30 minutes. It usually stops when you are 3 years old.
“Turning the head”: when rolling, the child turns his head back and forth, friction often causes a bald area on the back of the scalp. It begins at the age of 7 to 9 months and disappears at the age of 2 years.
“Headbutt”: computer science usually begins at the age of 8 to 9 months and ends at the age of 4 years. Children can hit their heads in different positions. Therefore, the front or back of the head repeatedly hits a solid object. Episodes of blows to the head can last up to 3-4 hours. Of all these elements, the only thing that can harm the child can hit the head, especially if it hits a hard surface. The child never suffers severe injuries, can only have bruises and bluish discoloration. It is advisable to keep the upholstered crib when parents pay more attention to the emotional needs of the child.
- biting the nails
It differs from the other stress points mentioned above in that it is not too big, but persists until puberty and even adulthood. In situations of tension or nervousness, some adults also begin to bite their nails and bite their nails. In this way, their nervous energy is released, which makes them more relaxed and relaxed. Besides being socially attractive, it does little harm. Parents can keep their children’s nails short so they can not chew anything.
- thumb sucking
Many children are born, suck their thumbs. It was also observed in a child to be born. Some babies have a strong sucker, while others have a weaker desire.
There is a 50% chance that a natural thumb sucker will stop smoking before age five. There are only two good reasons to change the habit of thumb sucking: one refers to dental problems and the other is social.
Remember, if you try to change the habit, it is a gradual process and your child will never be ashamed while working on it.
Satisfy the child’s sucking reflex: the pacifier can be a bottle with a slow-moving nipple that can help
Do not pay attention to your habit. The child is more likely to give up this habit before it reaches its first standard. In any case, it is better not to pay unnecessary and repeated attention to this habit.
Make the child aware: ask him to look in the mirror while sucking his thumb. Suck your thumb and ask him what he thinks. Tell other children to suck their thumbs and ask your child what it looks like.
Give the child an alternative: a less noticeable replacement can satisfy him. The foot of a rabbit or a small stuffed animal with fur or friction can do the trick.
Change the situation, break the union: try to reduce the time you spend sucking on very young children instead of eliminating them completely. If your child is sucking his thumb while sitting in a chair watching television, do not let him sit in that place.
Restrict where you can suck your thumb: keep track of when and for how long your thumb sucks for several days. Choose a location or a time and tell him that it is no longer acceptable to suck his thumb in this location or at this time. Be sure to select a location and a time you will be there on consecutive days.
ad banging and head rolling
These are all tensional outlets, which are by and large benign and pass off, as the child grows older. The child is sometimes not getting the emotional satisfaction that he craces for and so is under mental stess. This is released in various ways.
“Bosy rocking”: It occurs at about 6 months of age. In sitting or crawling position, the child rocks forward and backward. Vigorous rockers have been known to moce their cribs across the room. Frequently present when the child is tired or near bedtime, this behaviour continues for 15-30 minutes. It usually ceases by the age of 3 years.
“Head rolling” : Alying down child rolls his head from side to side, the resultant friction often causing a bald patch at the back of the scalp. It starts at eh age of 7-9 months and subsides by the age of 2 years.
“Head banging” : IT typically begins a the age of 8-9 months and ceases by the age of 4 years. Children may bang their head in varous positions. Thus the front or the back of the head may hit a solid object repetitively. Episodes of head banging may last as long as 3-4 houors. Out of all these the only one, which can cause any harm to the child is head banging, particularly if he bangs it against a hard surface. But the child never gets any serous injuries, only may be some bruises and bluish discoloration. It is advisable to keep the cot padded if the parents should pay more attentionto the childs emotional needs.
9. Nail biting
It is different from the other tensional outlets mentioned above in that it doesn’t outgrow itself but persists into adolescence and even adulthood. Under situations of tension or nervousness, some adults also start biting and chewing upon their nails. In this way, their nervous energy is released, which makes them feel calmer and relaxed. Apart from the fact that it doesn’t appear socially appealing, it causes little harm. Parents can keep the nails of the child cut short, so that they have nothing to chew upon.
Many children are born thumb-suckes. It has been observed in an unborn child too. Some infants have a strong sucking response while others have a less hearty urge.
The chances are fifty-fifty that a natural thumb-sucker will quit on his own before he is five years old. There are only two valid reasons to attempt to change the habit of thumb-sucking, one relates to dental concerns& the other is social.
Remember, while you attempt t change the habit, that, it will be a gradual process and never shame your child as you work on it.
Pacify the infant’s sucking reflex: The pacifier could be a bottle with a slow flowing nipple that can help satisfy her need.
Don’t give the habit undue attention. It is more likely that the child will drop that habit before she is in her first standard. In any case it is better not to give unneccessary and repeated attention to that habit.
Make the child aware: Have him look at the mirror while sucking his thumb. Suck your own thumb and ask him what h thinks. Point out other children who are sucking their thumbs and ask your child how they look.
Give the child an alternative: A less noticeable substitute may satisfy him. A rabit foot or a small furry stuffed animal or rub may do the trick.
Change the situation, break the association: For very young children, try to reduce the time spent sucking, rather than eliminate it altogether. If your child only sucks her thumb while sitting in a particular chair and watching television, do not allow her to sit in that seat.
Place restrictions on where she may suck her thumb: Keep a record for several days of where and when she sucks her thumb. Choose one place or time and tell her that it is not longer acceptable to suck her thumb in that place or at that time. Be sure to choose a place and time when you will be there foer several consecutive days.
Eliminate the habit in one place at a time:
Begin with a time frame, you are fairly certain that the child can manage easily.The first day the child may earn a thumb print for not sucking his thumb for just a few minutes, while watching television. Gradually increase the length of time required to earn a thumb print.
Apply a natural consequence: Choose a natural consequence to follow it your child does suck her thumb iun the unacceptable place. If watching television is chosen, turn off the set for five minutes when she sucks her thumb. After five minutes with no television or thumb sucking she may resume watching.
When your child stops sucking his thum, touch, hug and give him a lot of love. Positive reinforcement at this time may be helpful.
Thumb sucking usually starts appearing at the age of 3-4 months and may become established by the age of 7-8 months .It is a self-nurturing phenomenon used by the child to seek solace. If you remove the thumb from the child’s mouth it comes out,but pronto it goes bak again in his mouth as soon as your attention is diverted. Normally it goes at the age of 5 to 7 years.
11. Temper Tantrums
The child flings himself on the floor, starts screaming, and thrashes around with his hands, feet and head. Any attempt to hold the child or to lift him up is met with resistance as the child fights with you and wants to persist with his tantrums. Control is a cental issue. In ability to control some aspect of the esternal world results in loss of internal control manifested as temper tantrums. Overtiredness, frustration, physical discomfort, fears can evoke temper tantrums. A temper tantrums once in a while is normal, because in children also, the frustration levels are bound to cross the limits once in a while and this is the way they may give vent to ti. When the tantrums are intermittently or constanly rewareded by giving in to the child’s demands as a means of stopping the tantrum at the moment, tantrums can become an entreched strategy for exerting contril, Tantrums normally peak during 2- 4 years. If tantrums are persistent after the age of 5 years, usually it tends to persist in the whole childhood.Obviously the best way to control temper tantrums is to remain calm and aloof and not pay any attention to the child’s ongoing behaviour.
12 .Breath Holding
This is another not so uncommon complaint. To the onlooker, it appears frightening. A minor injury, frustration or slapping may precipitate the episode. The child starts crying in a very prolonged fashion without” breaking” the cry. As a result, he expels out the air from his lungs and since he is not inhaling during the crying, he gets a lack of oxygen in the body. It is just like you holding your breath for a prolonged period. The child starts becoming blue, may lose consciousness and may even have a fit due to lack of oxy
Eliminate the habit in each place:
Start with a time, you are almost sure that the child manages easily. The first day, the child can get a centimeter of fingerprint because he does not suck his thumb for a few minutes while watching television. Gradually increase the time it takes to obtain a thumb pressure.
Apply a natural sequence: choose a natural sequence to follow. Your son sucks his thumb in an unacceptable place. If you want to watch TV, turn off the device for five minutes while you suck with your thumb. After five minutes without television or sucking your finger, you can look again.
When your child stops breastfeeding, touch him, hug him and give him lots of love. Positive reinforcement at this stage can be useful.
Thumb sucking usually occurs at 3 or 4 months and may be between 7 and 8 months. It is a self-feeding phenomenon with which the child seeks consolation. If you take your thumb out of the child’s mouth, it will come out, but it will be premature in the mouth once your attention is diverted. Normally it is between 5 and 7 years old.
The child falls to the ground, begins to scream and struggles with hands, feet and head. Any attempt to hold or lift the child will be denied if the child is fighting with you and wants to remain in your tantrum. Control is a central issue. The ability to control certain aspects of the Eastern world causes a loss of internal control, which manifests itself in outbursts of anger. Fatigue, frustration, physical discomfort, fear can cause tantrums. A tantrum from time to time is normal, because even with children, the levels of frustration will inevitably exceed the limits, so they can unleash their Ti. If seizures are questioned intermittently or systematically by giving in to the child’s needs to end the crisis, seizures can become a tangled control strategy, but generally increase from 2 to 4 years. When seizures persist after age 5, they tend to endure childhood. The best way to control outbreaks of anger is to stay clear, calm and reserved, and not pay attention to the child’s behavior.
12 Hold your breath
This is another not so strange complaint. For the viewer, it sounds terrifying. A minor injury, frustration or concussion can trigger the episode. The child begins to cry for a long time without “breaking” the scream. As a result, it expels the air from your lungs and, since it does not breathe during tears, it lacks oxygen in your body. It’s like holding your breath for a long time. The child begins to turn blue, may lose consciousness and may even have a seizure due to lack of oxygen. As frightening as the description is, it is benign not to leave anything to the child, even if it turns blue and has a temporary crisis. Parents are very afraid of the blue child who sees it, and when it comes to seizures, it can cause acute panic. So they bathe the child with all their attention, massage and calm him. Paradoxically, this attention is the last thing he wants because the child does it to seek attention, and he does. The behavior will continue. The most effective way to stop this type of behavior is to stay calm and away from the child, completely ignoring it, even if it is soft or convulsive. As soon as the child realizes that such behavior does not show the desired effect after some traces, he abandons it.
gen. Frightening as the description is, it is benign in that nothing happens to the child even if he becomes blue and has a transient fit. Parents get extremely frightened at the sighted child getting blue and if he starts convulsing, it can drive them into a state of acute panic. So they start showering the child with all the attention, massaging and soothing him. Paradoxically this attention is the last thing, which is desired, as the child is doing this to seek attention, and he is succeeding in it, thereby positively behavior will continue. The most effective way to extinguish such behavior is to remain calm and walk out and away from the child completely ignoring him, even if he is limp or convulsing. Once the child realizes that such behavior is not producing the desired effect after a few trails he will give it up.