Anger is one of the most destructive of all emotions. It raises blood pressure, disturbs mental equilibrium and plays havoc with general health. An angry person cannot make rational decisions. Choleric people are prone to ulcers, hypertension, backache, migraine and heart problems. Suppressing anger is detrimental to overall well-being. It can lead to bowel problems, respiratory ills and skin flare-ups. Expressing anger and ventilating angry feelings is the first step towards control of that emotion. Women are much more likely than men to turn anger inwards and blame themselves, thus becoming depressed. There are many ways that one can get rid of anger without hurting anyone.
Repressed anger can result in resentment, anxiety or depression, all of which are damaging to the health. It is like a time bomb ticking away in your brain, likely to explode at any moment.
Anger comes in many shapes and forms, for instance
7 Tragedy, why me?
Acknowledging and expressing how we feel is healing, both we feel healing, both for our relationships and ourselves. But sadly, many of us learn at an early age to suppress our tears or anger or to rationalise away our strongest feelings. As adults, we may then hold back, fearing that we will hurt or be rejected by others if we reveal our true feelings, or that we may be overwhelmed or lose control. In fact, this makes matters worse. Creating distance between us and our friends and partners or building up resentment. In the long run, the inability to express emotions is known to be the major cause of minor problems. Such as headaches as well as severe illness.
If you tend to suppress your feelings–
- Learn to acknowledge to yourself how you feel and try to identify the cause of your sadness, anger, etc.
- Try to express your feelings directly to that cause.
- Try to say what’s on your mind at the time, rather than bottling it up or coming out with it later.
- Share your feelings of sadness or fear with others, rather than denying them or keeping them to yourself.
- Find outlets for anger and aggression that do not harm others, eg.,
- challenging physical exercise, or shouting from the top of a hill.